Sunday, March 29, 2015

It kind of feels like the end of vacation.

You go on vacation, knowing that eventually you have to come back home. Back to reality. The end of vacation comes, and despite knowing that vacation can't last forever, you're still totally bummed when it's time to go home. That's the only way I can explain how I feel right now.

We knew that despite being able to bring Jack home so quickly, we would have to go back to Children's and that he'd have to have his first surgery.. I guess, for me, I was enjoying the vacation so much I just don't want it to end. I'm dreading having to return to the reality of Jack's situation.

Jack had his EKG and an echo at Children's on Friday. We met with our beloved Dr. Ronai shortly after. Typically when she walks in the room, I can breathe a little easier. Her demeanor is usually relaxed and in turn, relaxes me. As soon as she sat across from Jack and I, I could feel the shift. She would say something positive, probably about how his color looks good. She would pause, purse her lips as if carefully trying to choose what words came out next. She would stare at Jack and give us another positive note.. such as how pleased she is with his weight gain. Then another pause. Deep stare at Jack. I know what's coming and my rational, level headed side wants to be able to absorb what Dr. Ronai is going to say next. I take the immediate urge to cry, the gut wrenching anger and apprehension and push them as far down as I can.. and I listen.

With every doctor visit, Jack's oxygen saturation levels drop a little. When he cries, his lips are starting to turn a little blue. The original hope was to hold off on Jack's first surgery until he was 4 or 5 months old. Given his dropping o2 sats, this will no longer be the case and it is looking more like he will be 3 months old. We booked a cardiology appointment in 2 weeks, however, the plan is to get him in for a cath lab before that and to be able to cancel the original appointment. During the cath lab, he will be hooked up to catheters that will run a bunch of tests. This is a 24 hour test so he will have to spend the night. Once they get those numbers back, the cardiology team will be able to decide when he will need the first surgery. He will have to be put on a bypass machine for 90 minutes of his surgery.. which to me, is the scariest part of it all. Dr. Ronai was very reassuring and positive and said she has complete faith that he will do just fine on it. The greatest risk being on the bypass is stroke, but she said his brain is much more developed now, he's big and strong and she thinks he will do just fine... and she said she will be there with us, and for us. And we love her and trust her.

The actual surgery is called the Glenn. Boston Children's hospital has a 98% success rate with this surgery. I like that number. They typically do this surgery at 3 to 8 months, when the lungs have "matured enough so that blood flows through more easily, and ventricular force is no longer necessary." The Glenn is a "direct connection between the superior vena cava and the pulmonary artery, diverting half of the blue blood directly to the lungs without help of the ventricle."*

Basically, this first surgery is rewiring his heart so that his blood flow goes where it should and that red blood cells get to where they need to be.

Please keep us and Jack in your thoughts and prayers. I will continue to update the blog and let you all know when we have booked the cath lab.

xo Marissa

He was such a good boy during his echo

Waiting for Dr. Ronai

<3



*This is actually typically a 3 phase procedure.. The Fontan Sequence. There are 3 different surgeries. the Norwood Procedure (which Jack got to skip because he is such a champ) The Glenn, then the Fontan. They are outlined here if you're interested in reading up on it...  http://www.childrenshospital.org/conditions-and-treatments/conditions/h/hypoplastic-left-heart-syndrome-hlhs/treatments

http://www.childrenshospital.org/centers-and-services/department-of-cardiac-surgery

Tuesday, March 24, 2015

Dr. G, a shot and oxygen sats.. Oh my!

So Jeremy and I loaded the cherubs in the car and took a family trip to the pediatrician for Jack's shot. In the exam room, both of my children were loud and not particularly pleasant. Jack was none too pleased about getting naked and put on the scale (really, who would like that?) and Evie was well.. Evie in a small, confined space. Luckily Jeremy was there to keep her entertained for most of the appointment.

Jack weighed in at 10.5! His oxygen saturation levels were tough to read but that's nothing new. It got as high at 73 so Dr. G said he'd give cardiology a call and just to give them a quick update.

He was a trooper with his shot. There were tears followed by immediate snuggles. We have to wait around for 20 minutes after the shot to make sure Jack doesn't have a reaction. Then it was time for Jeremy to go to work... and then there were 3...  a fussy baby who had just gotten a shot, a crazy Evie and me. Luckily, I'm a smart mama and threw snacks and a sippy in my bag and the remainder of our visit was spent consoling the babe, eating minion fruit snacks and apple sauce and singing about 17 rounds of Be Our Guest from Beauty and the Beast.

And now we are all home and resting comfortably.

I'll update on Friday after our visit with cardiology..

xo Marissa
Look at that chubba!!! and the little ham next to him :)

Monday, March 23, 2015

2 months, too thankful!

Jack is 2 months old! And we are too thankful for so much.. For Jack and his continued health.. For all of jacks health care professionals and doctors.. For being home as a family and enjoying this time together.. and for everyone for their love, prayers, help and support so far. 

This week, Jack has an appointment for his last shot of synagis. This is a vaccine he has had to get once a month for the flu season.. So just to be safe because this winter has been so cold, germy and miserable he is getting one last dose. He has a cardiology appointment at children's on Friday. He will get another EKG and if need be, he will have an Echocardiogram. Evie is counting down the days because that means she gets to hang with grandrea while mama dada and Jack sit in rush hour traffic. 

Xo Marissa
Happy siblings

Happy St Patrick's Day!

I can't even believe it! 

Tuesday, March 10, 2015

A cold or pulmonary obstruction?

Ah, it was so much simpler the first time around. If Evie coughed or sniffled or sounded congested, it wasn't really a cause for alarm. I may not have even considered calling the pediatrician. What's the point-- if she wasn't running a fever, it was probably just a cold and there's nothing you can do about it. Jack on the other hand-- he's a horse of a different color when it comes funky breathing.

Last night Jack was incredibly fussy and very congested. His breathing sounded very snort like.. I felt like I was sleeping next to a little piglet. To be completely honest, any little noise that Jack makes gives me this moment of sheer panic. As a veteran mom who's already done this whole newborn thing, I thought I'd be able to tell when it was something truly just "newborn" and not a heart related issue.

If Jack hadnt just stopped his Lasix (the meds that made him pee out any fluid that may have built up around his heart) I probably wouldn't have thought much of his congestion.. But it made both Jeremy and I nervous.

I emailed Dr. Ronai to let her know what was going on and told her though I thought it was just a cold, I'd call and make an appointment with the pediatrician anyway. Jeremy called and we were lucky enough to snag a cancelation. I took him in and his oxygen saturation level turned out to be fine.. And it was infact just a cold. He also weighed in at a whopping 9.8 lbs!!!!! If the pats end up losing Wilfork, Jack will be able to step in.

He has been very clingy and cranky today.. LOTS of nursing. Evie was a great big sister and took care of her brother. She was very patient and sweet despite a lot of the attention being on Jack today. 

My mom being the amazingly selfless woman that she is came up to watch Evie (despite being sick herself) so I didn't have to take her to the germy waiting room at the doctors office. She also stopped and got Jeremy and I dinner so I didn't have to cook. Seriously... Where did this woman come from and what did I do to deserve her?? Xo ma, you're the best xoxox 

Xo
Marissa 
Jack getting his oxygen saturation levels checked.. 
And telling me he's "THIS BIG" now :)

Baby wearing.. Because how else does anything get done??

Sunday, March 8, 2015

Times Like These

  • "I am a new day rising
    I'm a brand new sky
    To hang the stars upon tonight
    I am a little divided
    Do I stay or run away
    and leave it all behind?
    It's times like these you learn to live again
    It's times like these you give and give again
    It's times like these you learn to love again
    It's times like these time and time again"

Most of you know, one of Evie's favorite bands is the Foo Fighters. We listen to them day in and day out. I've always liked the FF, but when you are forced to listen to a hand full of songs over and over again, you pay more attention to the words.. and what one song may have meant to you at one point could mean something completely different now or carry a much more significant meaning.

Before Jack was born, we didn't know what to expect. We didn't know what was going to happen to him right off the bat.. and we were prepared for the worst. With my final push before his birth, I threw a hail Mary prayer up to whoever was willing to listen to please take care of my baby. We were told he could come out blue in color... Jack was perfectly pink. They prepared us to believe we wouldn't hear him cry once he was delivered... I never knew a baby's cry could sound so amazing. I can tell you with 100% certainty, there is nothing wrong with this kid's lungs. I was told I probably wouldn't be able to hold him because he would probably need to be whisked away to the NICU... allbeit was brief, I got to hold my son for a minute before his transfer to Children's.

Right out of the gate, Jack amazed us with his strength. He has surpassed any and all expectations of his doctors so far.. he is the text book definition of a miracle. I feel like his CDH is somehow teaching me to live in the moment with him-- to enjoy every single possible moment I can with him, because I didn't know if I was going to have these moments. And I don't know how many moments I will have with him in the future. Impending heart surgeries are the anchors that keep us grounded.. the serious gravity that keeps us from getting too far ahead of ourselves.

And yet whether he was born completely healthy or with his CDH, tomorrow isn't a promise to any of us. This lesson he is teaching me, this lesson of being in the moment and embracing our time together, stretches beyond just Jack. It connects me with Evie, and Jeremy, and my mom and my siblings.. my friends, my family. Nursing for hours on end, in the wee hours of the morning is rough, but his eyes meet mine and he pulls me back down to BE there. To enjoy our connection. At bedtime, Evie can have that extra book.. that one extra song. I'll hug my mom a couple seconds longer. I'll call my Grammy to check in and say hi. I will be there.

This lesson-- it's a precious gift my son has given me. The tides change.. we are up, we are down. Jack's health will be a long road. We'll have our good stretches-- we'll have our rough ones. We will have happy home comings, we will have extended stays at BCH. It's time's like these.. time and time again. And no matter what, I will be there.

Before I end with some pictures, a couple things...
1) Jack has been weened off his Lasix. YAY!
2) At his last appointment, Jack weighed 8.5! His 2nd chin is looking deliciously adorable.
3) We go back to Children's the last week of March, where he will have an EKG, and if necessary, an ecco.

And now, pictures.
Sibling snuggles

"I guess I'll share my play mat, Evie"

NBD, just holding my head up.

Valeninte's Day <3

Peekaboo

Happy sleepy time on dada

Jack's first visit to Grandma's house. GG came by to say hi! :)

AH!

Tough guy at the doctors for his 1 month check up

Love

Hey dad.

Look who's 1 month old?!

Hippo buddy

My favorite picture of ALL time!

2nd favorite picture of ALL time! 
The grand babies and "Grandrea" on her birthday <3

Sleepy smiles

Awake smiles

Sleepy giggles! :)

xo
Marissa